How To Tell If Your First Date Went Well
So you're wondering how to tell if a first date went well or not? Firstly we will answer the question based on your values and beliefs.
The short answer is your first date went well if you get the second date.
Another way to tell is if your first date contacts you soon after, but don't wait too long because in many cases the other person waits for you to call first. This is because they don't want to look desperate and needy.
The best way to tell if a first date went well is if you both had fun and laughter. If there was fun and laughter, then it did go well regardless of the future outcome.
Don't stay awake at night worrying about what you said and what you should have said. It is done now and it will either work out (the way you want it), or it will not.
Your Agenda
How to tell if your first date went well is a question based on your agenda. For example, your agenda could be to get another date with him/her or to obtain a long term relationship.
Likewise, your agenda could be to have a good time.
Therefore, your perception of whether or not your first date went well is based upon your agenda, your values and beliefs and your judgement of the experience.
Either Way, It Did Go Well
No matter what the outcome as a result of the first date, you should impress in your mind that all went well if you had a good time and did not do anything stupid like:
- Getting drunk and making an idiot of yourself.
- Spilling your guts about your emotional insecurities.
- Revealing too much about yourself (Telling All).
- Complaining.
- Not being yourself by pretending you are something other that what you really are.
If you were being yourself and your first date does not want to see you any more, this is not your problem, it is theirs. It is not up to you to bend yourself into a pretzel in order to get others to like you.
If you were not being yourself by *acting* to impress, then the relationship may not work out in the long term anyway because it will be difficult to keep up the masquerade.
Final Tips
Your value as a human is not determined by whether or not your first date accepts or rejects you. You should seek out more evidence to support this truth until it sinks into your flesh. This is called self-esteem.
Obsessing about the other person every minute 24/7 is a bad sign and could be an indication of emotional insecurity which the other person cannot fix.
Let go of the outcome and be focused in the moment. Wondering how to tell if your first date went well is being focused in a previous moment which no longer exists.
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